INTJ
Mom

I'm quite partial to the Love & Logic parenting method for a general overall parenting guide.  Pretty much anything that encourages personal responsibility and critical thinking skills gets a thumbs up from me, and Love & Logic does that.

I've also discovered a book called "Parenting Beyond Belief: On Raising Ethical, Caring Kids Without Religion".  Somehow I managed to raise responsible, ethical, compassionate, tolerant, & civic minded children the first time around without religion or any guide books.  However, my younger 2 kids are much more naturally free-spirited, questioning, & speak their mind types (geez, I wonder where they inherited that from?) than my older 2 kids were at the same age, & I feel more of a need to be armed with good answers to all their questions and to teach them how to not be so openly confrontational with people, especially religious people.  My 5 yr old is already uncannily inclined at sniffing out "things that don't make sense", especially in regards to religion, and he is not shy about pointing these things out to anyone and everyone.

I think it's important to help kids discover their talents and interests and help them to develop at least a couple of them that interest them the most.  It's helpful to kids, especially as teens, to have skills that can contribute to healthy self confidence and to help occupy their time with good activities.  However, if they lose interest in something I don't try to force them to continue in it just because they have some skill there.  I'm fine with them moving on to another skill that interests them more.

I always felt like my mom was trying to squash me into some preconceived mold she'd created in her mind instead of just appreciating me for who I was.  I vowed not to do that to my own children.  I think I've been successful so far in that regard.  I want my kids to do what makes them happy.

I also try not to make my kids grow up too fast.  I want them to enjoy their childhoods and move up to the next level when they decide they're ready to do so.

In terms of financial training,  I tend to take elements from both Love & Logic and Kiplinger's Raising Money Smart Kids.  I'll have to go more into that at a later date.  Both of my older kids have been financially independent by the time they turned 21.  They are both doing well with working and getting themselves through as much schooling as they desire to have so it seems we did something right there.  Not trying to claim they are perfect by any means, but when they make mistakes they know it's their own responsibility to fix them.  They don't expect or ask to be bailed out.